Tag Archive | Process

The Value of Quietude #5 – Inside Job

What ever way you decide to do it – quiet time is a must!

Even if it is just a few minutes behind the bathroom door.

I’m put in mind of Susanna Wesley;

Mother of ten;

When needing quiet time for prayer, sat at he kitchen table, (for two hours) with her apron pulled up over her head.

You can read about her here.

After reading her story, I have to wonder just how badly I want my quiet time!

It MUST be an inside job, right?

I have to want it deep down!

Tips for learning and expanding your super power!

Do you have any to add?

Until next time when we look at Excavation; Be Well.

The Value of Quietude #4 – Quietude Produces …

Quietude produces many things;

Among them hope, lack of fear, and a peaceful life.

Sop comparing yourself and your quiet time to others;

Today you are you!

That is truer than true!

There is no one alive who is you-er than you!-

Dr. Seuss (Couldn’t help it!)

Next time will be #5 – Inside Job

Until then …

The Value of Quietude #1 – The Noise That Lies

Have you ever been told that you’re “Too much”?

I’ve been told this one way or another for my entire life.

How about you?

I’m here to tell you –

You are NOT too much –

You are just right!

You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

Go out there and be just as crazy, busy, quiet, bold, and heartfelt as you were created to be.

Shine with the things that you created to shine for.

You may never know how much your life will encourage someone.

Your voice may be just the one they need to hear.

Please feel free to comment after you see this video.

Let me know your best area to shine!

Until next time …

The Value of Quietude

After my last post regarding seeing silence as a skill, I decided to return to some past work I had done on the topic.

I found some work I had done that was dated 2019.

I had totally forgotten about it.

This work was work that I had done for/with a small group of gals that I had joined for a project.

I had done a series called “The Value of Quietude”

… On YouTube …

Video!

I was compelled to watch it all together in one sitting.

The problem with watching your own work is that you never really know if it’s any good or not.

So; at the risk of it being really good – or really bad, I have decided to place it here for you to peruse.

I needed to hear it all again because of finding myself with a distinct lack of quiet time focus as of late.

I certainly hope you find it helpful too.

Any comments or critique you may have will be most welcome.

I would however, ask you to be gentle, as this is WAY out of my comfort zone.

So here we go;

The Value of Quietude – The Introduction.

Introduction

Until next time …

Raw and Real #11 – Relate

After much time working out the “Soundtrack of My Life”, I began to HEAR people in a different way.

Before, I had heard their stories; but to be truthful, said “So what?”

I mean I was sorry, but I had my own issues to deal with right?

Somewhere well into my process though, I found that our stories crossed in many ways.

I was not the only one.

I began to RELATE the stories I was hearing, to the stories I had lived, and from there, I was able to RELATE to the person telling the stories.

It may not sound like much, but as I listened, I found I could help somehow.

Sometimes, it was just by showing up.

Sometimes it was a knowing look.  

Sometimes I could not stop the tears from leaking from my eyes.

Other times it was a gentle touch on the hand.

Sometimes it was a hug.

Whichever one it was, we were RELATEing.

“Hugs” by Isabel Bloom

Do you know how much healing there can be by just knowing you are not alone?

Of course you do.

But do you KNOW you’re not alone?

Have you found the one that you can RELATE to?

Our world seems to think that everyone has to like us, understand us, agree with us; this is so not true.

You know what?

I learned that I can RELATE with anyone, even if we come from different worlds.

Why?

Because we all feel pain sometimes, and we all just need one person to notice us.

When I was young, and going through “un-talk-about-ables”, my only wish was to be invisible, so that maybe those things would stop happening.

But maybe being visible to even one person, the right one person, much of my pain could have been avoided.

To that, I can RELATE.

It became my goal to somehow become that person.

One who can honestly say, “I see you”, and “You matter”.

Now, I am a dyed in the wool INFJ. →INFJ here.

An introvert.

I’m not shy, but I prefer my times of peace and quietude.

Here is what makes me unique; I am NOT a fair weather friend.

(a person who stops being a friend in times of difficulty.)

In fact, I am quite the opposite.

I claimed the term “Rainy day friend” for myself.

(Rainy day friends are the ones who listen to us when life is difficult, and remain faithful in friendship and relationship when the rest of the world turns their back to us.)

(Hmm. I thought I made that up until I Googled it)

At any rate, I will come out of my quietness when summoned to help with a problem.

I am tenacious.

I do not give up or give in.

That being said, when the answer is found, when you have been heard, when our RELATEing has brought an answer to your anxiety, some sanity to your chaos, some relief to your pain, I’ll be on my way back to my own stuff.

I am so blessed to have gotten this gift from all that I’ve experienced.

We all need someone with which we can RELATE.

Not a hundred some ones, not fifty some ones, maybe not even a handful of some ones, maybe just one.

Remember this; Jesus was followed by masses of people.

He personally taught twelve, hung out privately with three, but really only RELATEd fully with His Father in Heaven.

My personal belief is that the last is the most important, but truth be told, the three is probably the one we should hope for here on earth.

(Unless your one is God!)

So do this please;

Redo your soundtrack.

After you do, or even while you’re doing it, find someone to RELATE your learnings to.

It will be a great help to you both.

Don’t be invisible – the world needs you now!

Next time join me for  Raw and Real #12 – Freedom.

Until then …