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Hindsight 20/20 – #4 – The Orphan Heart

Steps to help heal the orphan heart.

The first step that must be taken to heal the orphan heart, is to RECOGNIZE that we have one.

After recognition, we must make a quality choice to change our heart.

There are many different ways I am sure to make these recognitions, and choices.

I can only share with you the ones I have personally used.

My source of help came from many lists.

These lists I found, over the years, through Bible reading.

It was only when I went seeking to learn about my orphan heart that I began to connect all the dots.

Hebrews 4 says this;

12 For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart13 Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.

What this means is that the word of God can be used to learn the absolute truth.

God sees it all, and like in the old days when cameras had film, once that film was exposed, it could never be used again.

Once my heart has been exposed to the word of God, if I pay attention, the past can never be used on me again.

The most obvious list, would be the Ten Commandments;

The Ten Commandments can be found in Exodus 20, and reads like this;

That looks pretty straight forward right?

Some other lists I found were equally as straight forward, and although not very appealing to my senses, I found them to be true, none the less.

19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

This list was found in Galatians 5.

I can only say Ouch.

Now obviously, I (and probably you) am not guilty of all of these things, but I (and probably you) am guilty of at least some of these things.

Honestly, if you are guilty of them, it may, or may not be your fault.

Some of the things on this list are standard fare for the world we live in today.

Much has been unknowingly passed down from generation to generation, because of a lack of knowledge of what God requires.

Honor, respect, responsibility, in many cases, has never been taught.

Our hearts have grown up as orphans, without proper father training.

Here’s the thing; Now it’s been exposed to you, and you can begin to do something about it.

We cannot fix or change what was lacking in our former years, but we CAN fix it now.

It’s been exposed, and unless you let it, it cannot be used against you again.

But how can I make sure of that?

Well, here’s a list that you can literally live with, also found in Galatians 5;

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. 24 And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

I was, and am, so happy to know that there is provision already made for me to live a better life.

Next Wednesday, we’ll talk about how to make this work for us.

Until then, let’s spend a little time considering what needs to be exposed, and dealt with in our hearts, we don’t want to be orphans any more!

Until then …

Hindsight 20/20 – #2

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What a mess we find ourselves in today.

I’m not talking about just about COVID and shutdowns and all.

I am more referring to the condition of our hearts.

I’m thinking that the orphan heart could be just what the main problem is in the world today.

Is it possible it could be the cause of all of it?

We FEEL orphaned, so we act like it?

I’m sure it is much deeper than that, but don’t really know how to start.

My thinking is that how we act is a reflection of what is inside our hearts.

You’ve heard me say before that the way we see, feel and present ourselves to the world – Is an “Inside job”.

People ask, can adults be orphans?

The linguistic definition of “orphan” applies to a child. So technically, a person over 18 can’t be an orphan. But in real life, we apply the term to anyone whose parents are dead. …

Usually adults are not referred to as orphans unless the parents died when they were young children.

Orphan Law and Legal Definition; An orphan generally is a person without living parents to care for them. …

Scripture clearly states that if we are followers of Christ, then we are Sons (and daughters) of God.

For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. The Holy Bible says this in Romans 8:14, and in 1 Peter 5:6-8 says that we can “cast all your anxieties (cares) on him, because He cares for us.” 

The child of an unwed mother or surviving parent may be considered an orphan if that parent is unable to care for the child properly and has, in writing, irrevocably released the child for emigration and adoption.

So, according to Casey Treat post #1, our main struggle with inferiority, and insecurity, comes from a lack of biblical parenting.

When we lack these things, we become defensive, and may take it out on those around us.

This helps our “helplessness” to subside, if even only for a moment.

In all the research I’ve done, I’ve found the previous to be a common denominator in most of what I have read, and in what I have experienced personally.

The difference seems to me to be the difference between knowing that I do not belong to the world; I belong instead to God.

On a daily basis, the world serves me a heaping helping of anger, bitterness, resentment, fear, sorrow, and other things that my spirit is not prepared to deal with,  bitterness, wrath, anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, and malice.

Unless I know that God has my back, and I do my best to follow Him.

Then He serves up love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness gentleness and self control.

But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:18 – 23

Join me here next Wednesday as we continue to explore this topic.

Until then …

Hindsight 20/20

Several years ago, (17 to be exact) I came across a teaching by a Seattle pastor named Casey Treat.

The name of the series was “The Orphan Heart”.

I had not even heard of that before, but it caught my attention.

The book was entitled “Healing the Orphan Heart”.

In a nutshell, Casey maintained that the orphan heart is mainly caused by the “lack of biblical fathering”, that “causes many people to struggle with inferiority, insecurity, and defensiveness.”

“If your heart is orphaned, your life is broken; and if your heart is whole, your life is whole.”

“If you pursue a whole heart there is no limit to what God can do in your life.”

Healing the Orphaned Heart by Casey Treat

I’ve been hearing the term” Orphaned Heart” in many different places recently, so this made me want to go back, and look at the topic again.

Oh my goodness how that topic has been expanded.

To tell the truth, I think that quarantine time has managed to show me that some of those issues, although healed, are trying to come back.

Join me while I go and look back, (Hindsight 20/20 in 2020) and then look forward again.

My hope is that together, we can get a bigger perspective, and catch some more healing for our souls.

Since the resources are so vast, I’ll just post on this on Wednesdays, so that we can learn together.

I look forward to learning more about it with you!

Until next time …