Tag Archive | Insight

And Yes. There is Still Hope.

I keep learning stuff from this girl every day. I hope you will too.

Mary Wheeler

I am of the age that I grew up watching Grease. The classic movie about the Pink Ladies, the T-Birds. Everyone else was a “square” and not good enough for screen time. We absorbed the Back to the Future movies, ( Read more here ↓↓↓)


Until next time ..

Hindsight 20/20 – #6 – The Orphan Heart

A question of self esteem –

So many are not happy with the way they are.

Whether they have thought it themselves, or been processed to believe it by others, self esteem is a huge issue.

It is an issue so large that it can give us the sense of being orphaned.

Our hearts feel orphaned because we feel that we are always “Less than”.

Less than the top executive, less than the doctor or the nurses, less than the pastor or other public speaker.

We feel less than the guy driving the cool car, or the lady wearing the most expensive jewelry.

The truth though, is that “No one is better than us, and we are better than no one”.

How do I know this?

Because I’ve read it over and over, in so many different ways in my Bible.

My belief is that whatever GOD says; Stands.

Even over what others say, or try to make me think.

We each have value.

It is given to us by God, the One who made us.

Romans 12 says this – Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind ….. For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads, with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness.

As we read about in ⇾The Orphan Heart #5⇽, the fruit of the Spirit has the ability to change our thoughts and intentions.

We CAN renew our minds, and begin to believe what God our Maker has said about us.

Here is what He says in Ephesians 2 – For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.

Jeremiah 31:3 I have loved you with an everlasting love.

Jeremiah 9 says For I know I the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for you, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call to me and come and pray to me, (read; Talk to me) and I will hear you.

Psalm 139 tells us that God knows us.

He knows us all.

He knows us all the way to the smallest parts of our DNA.

And He loves us.

All of us.

Even when our days are dark, He will not leave us.

Hebrews 13:5b says “I will never leave you or forsake you.”

Since all these things are true, should we not, could we not, begin to see that we were made higher than the dirt way we see ourselves.

You can read more about it here.

Psalm 139 (ESV)

Search Me, O God, and Know My Heart

139 O Lord, you have searched me and known me!
You know when I sit down and when I rise up;
    you discern my thoughts from afar.
You search out my path and my lying down
    and are acquainted with all my ways.
Even before a word is on my tongue,
    behold, O Lord, you know it altogether.
You hem me in, behind and before,
    and lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;
    it is high; I cannot attain it.

Where shall I go from your Spirit?
    Or where shall I flee from your presence?
If I ascend to heaven, you are there!
    If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there!
If I take the wings of the morning
    and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,
10 even there your hand shall lead me,
    and your right hand shall hold me.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me,
    and the light about me be night,”
12 even the darkness is not dark to you;
    the night is bright as the day,
    for darkness is as light with you.

13 For you formed my inward parts;
    you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works;
    my soul knows it very well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you,
when I was being made in secret,
    intricately woven in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed substance;
in your book were written, every one of them,
    the days that were formed for me,
    when as yet there was none of them.

17 How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!
    How vast is the sum of them!
18 If I would count them, they are more than the sand.
    I awake, and I am still with you.

23 Search me, O God, and know my heart!
    Try me and know my thoughts!
24 And see if there be any grievous way in me,
    and lead me in the way everlasting!

I said all that, to say this; If our self esteem is suffering from how we were raised, (or not raised);

How we were treated by nice people or by bullies;

Called out in front of others by well meaning teachers;

or lifted up higher than we should have been;

or worse;

the list goes on;

We have been damaged.

But God!

He wants us to be whole, and serve the purpose for which we were created.

He wants us to be ourselves, not who someone else thinks we should be.

He created us to be fully OURSELVES, not someone else.

He also wants to walk by our side and has provided help in the form of His word to get it accomplished.

He never says it will be easy, but it will be worth it.

Dig in.

Dig in deep.

Keep digging, and using what you find to get yourself healed.

Take control over that Orphaned Heart.

Until next time …

The Number One Thing

Happy Monday to you all!

Today I’m sharing a post with you from a very prolific blogger.

He has graciously given me permission to do so.

His topic is one that gets discussed round our house quite often; but never quite as articulately!

The Number One Trait of the Unsuccessful

Posted on  by Cristian Mihai

Photo by Siavash Ghanbari on Unsplash

We’re all self-made, but only the successful ever admit it.

After all, why ever admit that you don’t like what you see in the mirror if you do not plan on changing?

But what if I were to tell you that the root cause of unhappiness and failure are not external factors, but our inner reactions to those factors.

After all, what is required of one in order to be successful?

Is it being a billionaire? Changing the world? Find one’s soulmate?

Aren’t those things intricately tied to a lot of external factors? And isn’t our perception of those factors the result of a combination of behaviors, beliefs, thoughts, and adaptations?

After all, some people are happy while having little reason to be so, and others are unhappy even though wildly successful.

It seems to me that we are only as happy and successful as we make up our minds to be. Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure, and ultimately it’s our inner reality that that dictates our own happiness.

The Number One Trait of the Unsuccessful

All unsuccessful people share this trait: they are blamers.

They are not willing to take responsibility for their own happiness and success, and thus they blame everyone and everything.

You fail by doing so, because there’s no reason for you to do anything to fix your predicament.

Don’t like what you see in the mirror? It’s genetics, it’s your parents, it’s some health issue, it’s the fast food industry.

Don’t like how much you earn? It’s the economy, the government, your neighbors.

When we blame external factors for what is ultimately our internal reality, we are choosing to sit in a rocking chair. It feels like we’re going somewhere, but we’re not going anywhere.

Blaming someone else means you never assume responsibility for your life.

I know this because I’ve wasted most of my twenties by looking for someone to put the blame on for everything that needed fixing in my life.

Do you want to know the harsh truth?

It doesn’t matter who’s to blame, it’s still your responsibility.

Your significant other left you? It’s your responsibility to fix your heart.

You lost everything you had during a recession? It’s your responsibility to challenge this disaster with more enthusiasm than ever before.

When you expect someone else to fix your life for you, you become helpless, and that’s a pathway to soon becoming hopeless.

We often like to tap-dance around the truth, being afraid that the truth is going to bruise our little egos.

If you don’t like something about your life, it’s your responsibility to change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.

Whatever you do, whether you have to beg or crawl or fight, just don’t put the blame on other people. They are not responsible for your success and happiness, you are.

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Do you consider yourself successful?

How do you feel about the blame game?

Are you able to take responsibility for your own stuff?

We see it all around us today;

and we must be willing to take action not only for ourselves, but for teaching this responsibility to those who will be following along behind us.

It gets easier as we go.

Please share any other ideas or insights you may have in the comments.

Until next time …